Tuesday, January 13, 2015
Stop Giving Men What They Want
Please stop fighting for my rights now. I'm very happy that we have laws against violence towards women, and it's nice to have the right to vote, but honestly, my husband and I are one and wouldn't care if our vote counted as one anyway. I know you started out wanting men to see women as worthwhile and strong...but why now do you want them to see us as men?
I'm sorry to say, but in your fight for women's rights, you're stripping away the rights of those who actually still want to be women.
As a woman, do I not have the right to stay home, raise a family and take care of my husband? Do I not have the right to be cared for and provided for by my husband? Is there something wrong with two married people caring for each other and supporting each other so no one person has to "do it all?"
Dear feminist, you would have us all believe that choosing this way of life is beneath women, unworthy and despicable. That if we choose a domestic life it must be an add on to our career, an afterthought, but most certainly not our only ambition.
As I woman I have rights, do I not? Is your purpose not to fight for the rights of women? Yet you are tarnishing our most sacred right.
Not only are your choices affecting the married women, they're affecting the ones who hope to marry.
It used to be the norm for a man to want to marry a woman to be able to care for and provide for her, and, well let's be truthful here, to be able to make love to her. He had to invest to get a return.
Feminists, you would have women believe that they should be sexually liberated, and there is no need to wait until marriage. Sleep with whom you'd like on Saturday and get back to work on Monday. "If men can do it so can we"and men are more than happy to oblige.
Dear feminist, in an effort to build a world for women, where we have rights and freedoms and are seen by men as equals, you are building the ideal world for men.
A world where a man can fill his desires with no need to invest relationally or emotionally, no need to invest financially by having a wife to provide for. If a child should come about as a result of this union it's often they aren't provided for either and many are forced to live without a father, and only a negative influence of what a father should be, and so the cycle repeats.
Complete freedom for men, and we're still not seen as equals, we are now just seen as sex objects who should oblige the men's desires and get back to taking care of ourselves. You are giving men what they want, and there's nothing in it for you.
It could be argued that men don't really want that either, I don't think deep down they do. But in this world of greed and selfishness there are many who are willing to take it. When they do realize this isn't fulfilling and not the life they want, the woman who is waiting patiently for a real man gets the leftovers from the woman who was trying to exert her independence.
Thank you to you men who have and are waiting patiently for women, and thank you to the men who have accepted the ones who once thought they could "have it all".
I don't speak to you dear feminist as the pure christian woman who saved herself for marriage and raises her nose at the feminist ideals. I speak to you as the once independent, strong, liberated "I can do it all" young woman who was foolish in her ways and has learned her lessons through experience.
What have I learned? I can't do it all. I don't want to do it all. There's a better way, and I'm not less of a woman for doing it, in fact, it's what makes me a woman.
So please dear feminist, stop giving men what they want. Because it's not what they need, and it's not what you need either.
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