Sunday, August 28, 2016

When You're Just SO Tired

I don't know about you, but I think this mom thing can be pretty tough. Having babies is exhausting enough, then raising them into functioning grown up adults, when you've barely figured that out yourself? That's where things can get tricky.

It's even harder to do it when you've spent years giving up, giving in, and not taking care of yourself. We try so hard to teach our children to serve, to love and to think of others before themselves. But if we're supposed to "love our neighbours as ourselves" and we're constantly beating on ourselves and not taking care of ourselves what would that love look like? I'd be feeding my neighbours fast food, making them feel guilty about everything they're not doing and pointing out all their flaws. We don't do this to people outside of ourselves do we? Hmm, do we?
I worked so hard to get away from selfishness and vanity that I took myself the complete opposite way. I forgot that while looks don't matter, and that health and fitness aren't my God, this IS still HIS temple and if I'm going to glorify God with it, I better at least be able to get off the couch.

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
1 Corinthians 6 19-20

My body doesn't have to be perfect in the worlds eyes. My stretch marks and saggy skin from holding multiple babies are beautiful because they are marks of my faith journey with God. My extra rolls, and sore body from eating unhealthy and lounging too long, however, are NOT a mark of that journey. My body should glorify God. I should have the energy to do the things He calls me to do, and I should put in it things to help it get there, and be able to stay there and healthy for as long as God can use me.

I'm sharing this because I know there are others out there like me. Fed up, tired, hopeless. Longing to do for God but having no motivation to start. But I'm starting! And I'd like you to join me!

I've started a Facebook page where you can follow my progress. I'm going to be sharing my journey, the things I try, what works, what doesn't. Yep, I'm going to be your guinea pig!

I'm also going to be teaching you to make some awesome natural homemade products for you and your family, as well as hints, tips, recipes, and GIVEAWAYS to help you on your own journey (and just for fun)!

Come join me over on Facebook as I start this journey by clicking the image above, and let me know if you'd like to follow along.

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

It's Not Supposed To Be Easy

I’m going to let you in on a little secret…

It’s not supposed to be easy. 

Following Jesus doesn’t lead to a life of convenience and luxury. Is that where He ended up? Did any of His disciples? No, we’re following Him to the cross. We’re laying down our lives daily, and facing persecution. We’re being tested and questioned and making choices that others are scoffing at us for and ridiculing us for, and mocking us for because it’s not the easy choice, because it’s not the choice the rest of the world is making.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, 
that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. 
Romans 12:2

No, we’re not following Christ to an easy life, we’re following Him to an eternal life. Something much better than the comfort and convenience this world offers us and spends it’s time pursuing. Let me remind you that our precious time here, it doesn’t last long. We have a small window. Should it be spent setting up our perfect life here on earth? Should it be spent working towards dream houses, manicured lawns, new vehicles, vacations, dining out, working out, buying a new wardrobe, feeding our flesh? Or should it be spent preparing for our eternal life with God? I’m sure your answer is the eternal life right? Is that what your life says?

“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, 
and where thieves break in and steal. 
“But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, 
and where thieves do not break in or steal; 
for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. 
Matthew 6:19-20

So no, it’s not easy. But how does an unbeliever see worth in this life through us then? If they see us struggle, if they see us with less? If they see us with what they perceive as burdens and discomfort in a culture of selfishness and excess? How are we perceiving our own lives? Do we complain about our houses, our cars, or not having enough money? Do we complain about our work, our bosses, our health, our children, our husbands, our bodies? Do we grumble through the day, wishing it were easier? Are we praying for Jesus to just give us a break? Asking the one who DIED ON A CROSS for us, to make it easier for us to be comfortable and enjoy this life on earth? 

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.  
1 Thessalonians 5:18

Or, are we calm in the midst of the storms? Do we have a peace that passeth understanding? Do we rejoice when we are persecuted? Are we anxious for nothing? Do we count it all joy?

"I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” 
John 16:33

Monday, October 5, 2015

Putting up Purslane

Is there anything better than planting a garden, watching it grow and harvesting and putting up the food for the winter?
Sure! How about harvesting and putting up food you did no work to produce, that God just provided for you. You can't get much more frugal than foraging.

 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, 
neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; 
yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. 
Are ye not much better than they?
Matthew 6:26

Purslane is one of those fabulous foods you can't seem to get rid of if you wanted to. Chances are, if you have a garden, you have purslane.

Did you know that purslane is extremely nutritious? It is higher in omega 3 fatty acids than many fish oils and is also high in vitamin A, vitamin C, Magnesium and Iron, just to name a few. 

And God just puts it there for us to help ourselves, while we mutter naughty things under our breath and pull those nasty weeds and toss them in the pile with the rest of the garden waste. Oh how silly humans are.

So I've talked you into utilizing this weed? Now, what do you do with it? Try using it in salads and stir-fry's. Or, if you're feeling a little more adventurous try pickling it! 

Now I would love to tell you how this tasted, but my children gobbled up the entire jar on me. 

Here's a couple recipes to give it a try yourself:

Pickles not your thing, or you're looking for a way to keep this healthy green to use throughout the winter? Try dehydrating it. We dehydrated ours and crushed it into a jar with a mix of other greens for soups and smoothies in the winter. This could be turned into a powder as well.

Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ 

or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’

For the Gentiles seek after all these things, 

and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.

Matthew 6:31-32

How do you plan to use this simple blessing from God?

Saturday, October 3, 2015

How Will You Afford College for Your Children?

People have a lot of questions about large families, and more often than not they tend to focus on money and finances. I think that says a lot about our world right there, don't you?

One question in particular that so often gets asked is:

"How will you afford to send your children to college/university?"

While I can't answer this question for all large families (believe it or not, not all large families share the same views) I can share our views on this.

Let me start by asking some questions:

  • What is the reason for your child to attend college/university?
  • What is your goal for your child's future?
  • What is God's will for your child's future?
  • Do those match up?

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Our hope for our children is that they will grow in a relationship with God, so that they might understand His will for their life, and pursue that purpose with all their heart.
We pray that they will follow where HE leads them, not where the world says they should go or meet the milestones the world says they must meet in order to be successful in the world.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

God has plans for each of us. The verse does not say, I know the plans you have for yourself. God has plans to give us a future and a hope, and to make that happen we should follow His will and not our own.

"But what if God's will is for your child to become a doctor or something that requires an expensive education?"

Let's be realistic. For many of our children, following God's will, will not lead to a post secondary education. Why? Because our goal in life is not to pursue money and worldly things. 1 Timothy 6:10, Matthew 6:24, 1 John 2:15-16. This is not to say they can't be educated, or learn new things. There are apprenticeships, on the job training, and anything you want to learn about these days can be found free online if you feel that's where God is leading. Just remember, education isn't the same as wisdom.

We are drowning in information, 
while starving for wisdom.
                                     E.O. Wilson

That being said, what if your child really is destined to be a doctor? I have an 8 year old whose been reading college anatomy books the past couple years, which makes this a very likely possibility.

Let me ask you this before answering:

  • Who is your God?
  • What is He capable of?
  • What does the Bible say about His provision?
  • Do you believe if God has a plan for your life that He won't give you the tools needed to do His work?  
If post-secondary education is God's will for your child there are scholarships and bursaries for this exact purpose.
We also believe that by the time a child is ready for that step, they are not a child anymore. When they are ready to pursue Gods will for their life, and they are at an age to be responsible and considered an adult they also have the responsibility to find their own way in life to achieve those goals. Just remember what the Bible says about debt, and how many have gone thousands into debt for their education only to get a job doing something that never required that education in the first place.

Let me leave your with some final questions:

  • Are your views about post-secondary education yours or Gods?
  • Do your views match up with your friends and neighbours, or with Gods?
  • Do you have a hard time standing out and being different than everyone else?
  • What is Gods will for your life?

12 And further, by these, my son, be admonished: of making many books there is no end; and much study is a weariness of the flesh. 13 Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
Ecclesiastes 12:12-13

Friday, October 2, 2015

Are you a Christian?

There is a man standing in front of you. He is holding a gun to your head, and he asks you a simple question. "Are you a Christian?"

He's asked this question twice before getting to you. The first person answered yes and was immediately shot in the head. The second answered no and was shot in the leg.

It's your turn. What's your answer?

Indeed, all who desire to live a Godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted,
2 Timothy 3:12

We forget sometimes in our culture of comfort that this scenario is not uncommon in other places. That Christians are dying every day for their faith, and have for centuries, that we've been told we will be persecuted, not might, WILL. Is this something we should fear?

"Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, 
for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven."

Matthew 5:10

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? As it is written, “For your sake we are being killed all the day long; we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.
Romans 8:35-37

And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. 
Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

Matthew 10:28 

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Stop Giving Men What They Want

Dear Feminist,

Please stop fighting for my rights now. I'm very happy that we have laws against violence towards women, and it's nice to have the right to vote, but honestly, my husband and I are one and wouldn't care if our vote counted as one anyway. I know you started out wanting men to see women as worthwhile and strong...but why now do you want them to see us as men?

I'm sorry to say, but in your fight for women's rights, you're stripping away the rights of those who actually still want to be women.

As a woman, do I not have the right to stay home, raise a family and take care of my husband? Do I not have the right to be cared for and provided for by my husband? Is there something wrong with two married people caring for each other and supporting each other so no one person has to "do it all?"

Dear feminist, you would have us all believe that choosing this way of life is beneath women, unworthy and despicable. That if we choose a domestic life it must be an add on to our career, an afterthought, but most certainly not our only ambition.
As I woman I have rights, do I not? Is your purpose not to fight for the rights of women? Yet you are tarnishing our most sacred right.

Not only are your choices affecting the married women, they're affecting the ones who hope to marry.

It used to be the norm for a man to want to marry a woman to be able to care for and provide for her, and, well let's be truthful here, to be able to make love to her. He had to invest to get a return.

Feminists, you would have women believe that they should be sexually liberated, and there is no need to wait until marriage. Sleep with whom you'd like on Saturday and get back to work on Monday. "If men can do it so can we"and men are more than happy to oblige.

Dear feminist, in an effort to build a world for women, where we have rights and freedoms and are seen by men as equals, you are building the ideal world for men.

A world where a man can fill his desires with no need to invest relationally or emotionally, no need to invest financially by having a wife to provide for. If a child should come about as a result of this union it's often they aren't provided for either and many are forced to live without a father, and only a negative influence of what a father should be, and so the cycle repeats.

Complete freedom for men, and we're still not seen as equals, we are now just seen as sex objects who should oblige the men's desires and get back to taking care of ourselves. You are giving men what they want, and there's nothing in it for you.

It could be argued that men don't really want that either, I don't think deep down they do. But in this world of greed and selfishness there are many who are willing to take it. When they do realize this isn't fulfilling and not the life they want, the woman who is waiting patiently for a real man gets the leftovers from the woman who was trying to exert her independence.

Thank you to you men who have and are waiting patiently for women, and thank you to the men who have accepted the ones who once thought they could "have it all".

I don't speak to you dear feminist as the pure christian woman who saved herself for marriage and raises her nose at the feminist ideals. I speak to you as the once independent, strong, liberated "I can do it all" young woman who was foolish in her ways and has learned her lessons through experience.

What have I learned? I can't do it all. I don't want to do it all. There's a better way, and I'm not less of a woman for doing it, in fact, it's what makes me a woman.

So please dear feminist, stop giving men what they want. Because it's not what they need, and it's not what you need either.

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Friday, January 9, 2015

If We Ask Anything

Yesterday, I left off with these verses: *Previous Post*

Luke 10:38-42(KJV)

38 Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house.
39 And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word.
40 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.
41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:
42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.

By the way, did I tell you that I was ignoring my husbands prodding for attention to discuss scripture with me while I wrote that? :sheepish grin: Ya, my life is sometimes THAT ironic!